Pain and suffering. I've lost count of the number of times I've heard or even uttered these two words. Like a loyal companion, suffering follows pain. How screwed up is that? Think about pain first. Not just physical pain. Let's go a step further and talk about the pain of the mind. It pains when you're hurt. Often, it's some other person who ends up hurting us. Or, we end up allowing ourselves to get hurt. Let me elaborate on that. We allow people to get close to us, and we get close to somebody else. But when we get close, and when we find that our expectations aren't matched, we get hurt. By expectations, don't get in your mind some materialistic expectation. I'm talking about expectations in an emotional level. You know, when something happens and you expect that someone to act in some way, perhaps give you a supportive shoulder, say something nice, that sorta thing. It's our own expectations that, 99% of the time, ends up getting us hurt. How sad is it, that no matter how much we hate getting hurt, it's often we ourselves that act as a cause for that hurt, for that pain? Fate does love being ironic doesn't it?
Like a lapdog arrives suffering. You ask the most frequently used three letter word: why. Why are you suffering. Why did the things that happened happen. Why did that person who was so close end up causing you pain. Why did you let yourself into the situation again. I mention "again" cus it takes many attempts and situations of self inflicted pain before a person retracts into his or her solitary shell. A pitiable state, a last resort, a self imposed sentence served in your own glass prison. But all those whys are purposeless. You know why (love the irony that I'm using "why" while telling you that it is purposeless)? Because the reason you're asking "why" is wrong. You ask "why" to realise the reason behind the happenings. In reality, it'll just make you more miserable, more angry, more pained. If you want to erase the pain, you have to ask the right "why". Now, what is the right "why"? It's this. You ask yourself why YOU let yourself get attached. First accept that you allowed this, you laid it's foundation.
That's this cruel world I'm afraid, as much as we deny, we are the cause of our own suffering. If you set for yourself too high a goal, or too impossible a dream, or hope for something with such intense desire and passion even though there's not even an iota of a possibility for its arrival. Face it. We cause our own pain. It's always our own deeds and actions.Sit back and think, and if the realisation dawns to you, good for you, because you asked the right "why". No what will you do after the why? learn from it. Learn how not to make that same mistake. Set more realistic goals and dreams, have less expectations from people, get attached and close to the right kind of people. That sort of thing.
Here's the final part. Although your pain and suffering almost always have their roots in you, you don't need to chop that tree off yourself. There are people who, when close, will only and only help you. I kid you not. Even the darkest and most imposing jungle has some gentle creature. Even this concrete jungle of a world. Even the wait is painful and suffering laden.
People suffer for so many reasons. Hungry suffer. Poor suffer. Even teenagers like me suffer due to undue tension and stuff like that. Not all suffering is our own cause. The poor didn't choose to be poor, neither did the hungry or homeless. They need another hand to hold on to. But most of us have the problems rooted in us, Do yourself a favour, do me a favour. Ask the right why. Put all the answers to that why in a bag, throw the bag away. Done deal.
Like a lapdog arrives suffering. You ask the most frequently used three letter word: why. Why are you suffering. Why did the things that happened happen. Why did that person who was so close end up causing you pain. Why did you let yourself into the situation again. I mention "again" cus it takes many attempts and situations of self inflicted pain before a person retracts into his or her solitary shell. A pitiable state, a last resort, a self imposed sentence served in your own glass prison. But all those whys are purposeless. You know why (love the irony that I'm using "why" while telling you that it is purposeless)? Because the reason you're asking "why" is wrong. You ask "why" to realise the reason behind the happenings. In reality, it'll just make you more miserable, more angry, more pained. If you want to erase the pain, you have to ask the right "why". Now, what is the right "why"? It's this. You ask yourself why YOU let yourself get attached. First accept that you allowed this, you laid it's foundation.
That's this cruel world I'm afraid, as much as we deny, we are the cause of our own suffering. If you set for yourself too high a goal, or too impossible a dream, or hope for something with such intense desire and passion even though there's not even an iota of a possibility for its arrival. Face it. We cause our own pain. It's always our own deeds and actions.Sit back and think, and if the realisation dawns to you, good for you, because you asked the right "why". No what will you do after the why? learn from it. Learn how not to make that same mistake. Set more realistic goals and dreams, have less expectations from people, get attached and close to the right kind of people. That sort of thing.
Here's the final part. Although your pain and suffering almost always have their roots in you, you don't need to chop that tree off yourself. There are people who, when close, will only and only help you. I kid you not. Even the darkest and most imposing jungle has some gentle creature. Even this concrete jungle of a world. Even the wait is painful and suffering laden.
People suffer for so many reasons. Hungry suffer. Poor suffer. Even teenagers like me suffer due to undue tension and stuff like that. Not all suffering is our own cause. The poor didn't choose to be poor, neither did the hungry or homeless. They need another hand to hold on to. But most of us have the problems rooted in us, Do yourself a favour, do me a favour. Ask the right why. Put all the answers to that why in a bag, throw the bag away. Done deal.
